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You're about to learn why all three of these statements are FALSE.
The inner critic keeps you overweight.
At the end of this cheat sheet, I'll show you how to turn your inner critic into an inner cheerleader (or inner encourager).
You'll be blown away at how much easier weight loss becomes when you cheer yourself on instead of beat yourself up.
Ninety percent of my weight loss clients express fear when I ask them if they're ready to let go of their inner critic.
They think looking at themselves in disgust will motivate them to lose weight.
They tell me, "I'll stop beating myself up after I lose weight. If I accept myself now, I'll stay fat forever!"
I understand how they feel. I used to feel that way too.
I used to talk to myself like an angry locker room coach saying,
"What's wrong with you! You dropped the ball! You're supposed to be on a diet and you had a piece of cheesecake?!! You're never going to be lovable if you're heavy! You're a failure!"
I didn't specifically say those things to myself but that's how I made myself feel when I noticed my jeans getting tight or the number on the scale creeping up.
(I'm very anti-scale, but that's for another cheat sheet.)
The journey dictates the destination.
If your inner critic motivates weight loss, he/she will still be screaming "You're not good enough!" when you get to your goal.
It's a neuroscience law.
Here's how that law works in plain English.
There's a child-like part of you called your subconscious mind.
This part of you wants to protect you and make you happy. It's not something to fight against or overpower.
* Your subconscious mind wants to give you what you want. (This is so important. Read that again.)
The subconscious mind doesn't use logic. It doesn't conceive of "wrong" or "right", "good" or "evil" etc.
It decides what you want by noticing. . .
YOUR FOCUS.
When you beat yourself up and call yourself a failure, you focus on being stuck. Your subconscious notices this and directs you to STAY STUCK.
Focus on the problem = More of the problem
When you criticize yourself, your brain reacts as if an angry coach is shouting in the locker room.
Being yelled at is stressful so your brain releases stress hormones like insulin, cortisol, and adrenaline.
Your body responds to this stress cocktail by holding onto fat, slowing down metabolism, and making you want the cheesecake more than ever.
This is going to sound really simple and when you try it, you'll be amazed by how well it works. . .
Think of someone who's great at encouraging others. Pretend to be that person and encourage yourself.
Tell yourself, "You can do this!"
Here's a cheat sheet that makes it easy and fun to do this.
Give yourself permission to love and accept yourself now, even if it feels weird.
Easier said than done, right? Here's a cheat sheet that shows you how.
Here's a simple breathing technique that turns off the stress chemical cocktail of self-criticism and turns on peace chemicals in the body.
I call this the 5-5-10 breath.
Chose one of the steps above to use for the next week and notice how much easier it is to make good choices during the day.
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