5 steps to Unshakeable Self Confidence  

By Lori Hammond

Coach and Professional Hypnotist. Giving you simple tools to stop overwhelm and harness joyful forward momentum.

Please note: This cheat sheet walks you, step-by-step, through the exact protocol that took me from “trying to be invisible” to “stepping into my worthiness to be confident” so you can do it too. A few years ago I googled, “How to be confident.” I was determined to find a book... or an article... or a program... that could teach me how to stop being so stinking insecure all the time.  I figured it would take a big investment of time and money because I’d already tried everything to stop the fear of being myself. I avoided making eye contact when I spoke…

 

I mumbled when I tried to express my opinions.

 

I didn’t think I had anything worthwhile to say. 

 

I kept myself hidden on social media and NEVER posted publicly.

 

Then I learned hypnosis and everything changed.

 

I started to realize that I AM worthy of being myself.

 

I realized that my TRUE self is perfect exactly as she is… “flaws” and all. 

 

I learned to step out of life-long depression and experience joy. 

 

QUICK DISCLAIMER: I haven’t arrived and I still get the chance to re-discover these truths on a daily basis. I’m having a blast on the journey... even though my "flaws" still shine through.

 

I knew that I wanted to share the hypnotic tools that set me free with the rest of the world.

 

But there was ONE catch!

 

I WAS TERRIFIED TO GO PUBLIC.

 

All my friends, co-workers, and family knew me as Lori Hammond, Hairstylist…

 

The person who was afraid to make eye contact and mumbled when she spoke.

 

The thought of putting myself out there, or even saying the words, “I’m a hypnotist” made me want to puke.

 

“Who am I to act like I can help people?”

 

Then I asked myself, “What if I gave myself permission to be confident?”

 

I hated the idea of “faking it till I made it” because true confidence means being authentic.

 

Then I discovered that...

 

It’s impossible to fake confidence!

 

Here are 2 neuroscience facts:

 

1. If you have EVER been confident in ANY area of your life, then you can use confidence in any situation.

 

2. If you can OBSERVE confidence in someone else, it means your body knows how to be confident.

 

We learn every single thing we do by observing someone else doing it first. 

 

Someone else taught me how to feel insecure…

 

I practiced being insecure so often that it felt natural and normal and “authentic”.

 

Hypnosis and NLP taught me how to use those 2 neuroscience facts up there to give myself permission to be confident even though it felt like faking it at first.

 

The more I practiced confidence, the more natural, normal, and authentic it became.

 

Now I feel like a fraud if I act insecure. 

 

If you want me to guide you, step-by-step, through the exact process that set me free from chronic Trying to be Invisible Syndrome, read on. 

 

I’m going to use the example of having confidence to make videos because this is the #1 area where people tell me they lack confidence and it’s the first place I practiced this technique.

 

Step 1:

Name the activity or situation where you want to have confidence. 

 

Example: I want to be confident when I make video even though it feels weird talking to a cell phone camera. 

 

Step 2:

Think of someone who is naturally confident when doing that activity. It can be a person you know or a celebrity or fictional character. 

 

Example: Tony Robbins is super confident in front of a camera. 

 

Playful example: Batman would be really confident making a video if he knew it would save Gotham.

 

Step 3:

 

Look at the place where you are going to make your video and imagine that the person you identified in #2 is standing there making a video. 

 

BONUS points for being a little silly with this one. 

 

Step 4:

 

Notice their body language.

 

Notice the way they breathe when they’re confident

 

Notice their self talk (it’s ok to playfully make it up)

 

Example:

Body Language: Batman is standing tall with his chest out. His cape is billowing behind him in the wind...even though he’s standing in the middle of my living room and there’s no air moving.

 

Breathing: He’s taking deep breaths and speaking slowly with a deep, convincing voice. 

 

Self-talk: He’s telling himself, “This is true. They’re going to believe me.”

 

Step 5:

Now, stand up and walk over to the spot you’ve been looking at. Pretend to stand or sit inside the body of the confident person. 

 

Match their body language with your body language.

 

Breathe and speak the same way they breathe and speak.

 

Say the same things to yourself that you think they might say to themselves. 

 

Step 6:

Now hold your phone up and pretend to make a video!

 

Or imagine yourself doing whatever activity you used to feel insecure about with THIS body language, breathing, and self talk. 

 

While you read this next part I invite you to ask,

 

“What if this is right for me?” 

Have a confidence infused week !

 

Love,

Lori